Proverbs 11:14 “Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.”
This is a very important principle to apply when seeking wisdom. We have all made the statement: “I wish I would have listened to them.” However; I can honestly say that I have made the following statement: “I am glad I didn’t listen to them.” Receiving wisdom from the right people is imperative to making the right decisions. Getting counsel from a multitude of counselors can be confusing because, many times, you don’t get the same advice from the people you ask. This creates a major problem for people because they value the opinions and wisdom from the people they are asking. Recently I began to think about some ways to “weed through” the advice you receive.
- Always start with God. The Bible says “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God…” (James 1:5). It amazes me how swift people are to seek the advice of a complete stranger before they seek God’s advice. Prayer and searching the Scriptures can be a long and tedious process, but the cost is of eternal value. Rather than turn to our fellow man, we must turn the one that gives wisdom. Don’t ask advice from any person before you have began to ask advice from the Lord.
- Avoid advice from those that will tell you only what you want to here. The greatest friends are the ones that tell you the truth regardless of whether you want to hear it or not.
- Advice that does not align with the Bible is never good advice. The Bible should always be our litmus test. If you accept the advice from someone that does not align to Biblical Principles then you will get the same results. Spiritual advice from Spiritual people will equal Spiritual results. Dangerous advice from ungodly people will create some disastrous results.
- Accept advice from those that don’t have selfish intentions. Many times the advice you are given is only to fit the mold of the person giving it. Make sure the advice you are receiving is in your best interest. There are dangerous people out there that want to give you advice that can manipulate you into doing what they think is right. Avoid selfish people and seek after selfless people.
- Acknowledge advice from those that have both failed and succeeded. Those that have failed can tell you what not to do, and those that have succeeded can tell you their recipe for success . When they both agree together, it will then create advice that is more valuable than gold.
A good rule of thumb is that get your own idea about the direction you want to go. Make sure it aligns with the leading of the Holy Spirit, the Scriptures, and the situations you are encountering. Walking into any counseling session with no direction can definitely lead you in the wrong direction.